Use jealousy to your advantage.


This post is the second in a series of seven about entrepreneurship. When we sat down to think about entrepreneurship for women, several themes continued to come up in our discussions about struggles that women (and men) come up against when starting their own businesses. 

The second post comes from Kate, and is around the idea that you are not competing with anyone.

Use jealousy to your advantage.

Does your stomach tie up in knots when you hear about the success of another venture? Have you ever felt jealous when a friend or colleague was honored with an award?

Perhaps you’ve received news that a new business has opened up in town (or online!) with similar offerings and you wonder if all your customers will jump ship.

Sometimes we are so full of shame and self-doubt to give even our best of friends a much deserved congratulations.

It’s difficult to celebrate other entrepreneurs' successes when we automatically set them up as a threat.

It’s no secret, feeling threatened by success is a natural human reaction. But let me ask you this: could it be possible that feelings of jealousy and envy can be an asset to self-discovery?

The next time you feel your heart racing and that sinking feeling of jealousy, ask yourself what is it inside of you that is making you feel this way.

Jealousy is triggered when you witness someone experience something that you would like to achieve yourself.

Use this insight to your advantage and channel negative energy into self-realization, and use the information you collect to create new goals.

The good news is that there is a shift happening—especially amongst women entrepreneurs.

We’re learning:

  • When we compare ourselves to one another, we become small and defeated.
  • When we celebrate others, we experience just as much joy, confidence and strength as they are feeling.
  • When we extend congratulations, it’s returned when it’s our time our shine.
  • Achievements are opportunities for collaboration.
  • Our personal success is not measured by the milestones of others.

Emotions help us to grow—especially the yucky, uncomfortable ones.

If you really want to learn from envy, I challenge you to reach out to someone whom you are jealous of and let them know that you are inspired by what they are doing and that you want to create something similar in your life. Ask questions. Learn from their story.

Then make a list of goals and coordinating action steps so that you too can achieve the successes you desire.

Refuse to let jealousy shrink and paralyze your spirit. Make a conscious choice to use jealousy as an opportunity to create the life of your dreams. You will most certainly inspire others to do the same.

Let us know in the comments below how jealousy and envy have played a part in your life. What have you learned from these emotions?

New to the series? That’s okay. You can find the first post here: